He's Gone...

Dear Stephanie,

It hurts and it’s awful and you feel like it’s never going to end, but believe that it will. Believe that if this is over then there is something better out there. If you need to believe that it just isn’t right for now, but it might be one day, then believe that for now. But not for too long.

You love him, I know that, but around you the world has to keep turning. You can’t let it break you like it has in the past. You’re stronger now. Know that you will get through it and life is too short to wallow.

So cry all day tomorrow wondering what went wrong. Refuse to leave the couch if it makes you feel better. Watch Bridget Jones and eat ice-cream and cry till you’re dry. But at some stage remember to start attacking again. Remember that life won’t wait for you and neither will he. 

Try not to be angry with him for too long. Forgive him so that you can one day open your heart again… And carry a little piece of him with you. Both for the memories and for the lessons… And remember that he’s made you the happiest you’ve been in so long. See that for the blessing it is.

He knows you love him and that’s all you can do. You have to let him go now.

Maybe it was just bad timing, or maybe he was just the wrong guy. Just know that the real one is out there and, whether you’ve met him or not, he’s getting to you as quickly as he can and you need to just have faith in that and get on with life. Don’t bother looking because you won’t find him that way.

Now focus on you and heal.

Love Stephanie